Let me first come out as pro-breastfeeding. It’s weird that I even feel like I have to qualify that. Being a new mother is tough enough, we don’t need to add a stigma to naturally feeding your baby on top of all the other crap. Some people are taking an issue with the way a particular mother is breastfeeding her kid. Maybe they have a point.
Tasha Maile has a YouTube channel where she doles out spiritual advice and parenting tips. Previously, she’s talked about breastfeeding her kids at an age that perhaps other people would stop. I’m not an expert in that. But her new video, “Do I have sex while breastfeeding?” maybe crosses a line.
“You could see wars on TV,” Maile says, “but if someone was to make love in public its the worst thing in the world.” I feel like there are plenty of places to catch folks making sweet love on TV, and that it’s different than “in public” but whatever, I’m splitting hairs.
“We are pleasure beings,” Maile continues, giving me the name of my new easy listening album, “we are meant to enjoy sex and pleasure and all things orgasmic and all things can be orgasmic.” All things? Like all things? I’m sure there are some things you wouldn’t want to see people being orgasmic about, right?
“I’ve had a lot of people ask me if it’s okay to breastfeed and have sex. From what I remember, I remember sleeping with my ex-husband and my son was on me breastfeeding and we would have sex from behind or something. There’s nothing bad about making love at all, ever.”
Cue the internet outrage, people calling it incest, etc. I think it’s even weirder. From how she describes it, it sounds like her ex got all hot and bothered when he saw her breastfeeding their kid, and sort of incidentally did her from behind. And that she can’t be trifled to remember the details of it. Maile is so sex positive, she can’t be bothered to recall where and when she was having sex and what else she was doing. That seems like a greater problem.
The world is indeed a colorful tapestry.