Here’s the Real Reason Demi Lovato’s Engagement to Max Ehrich Failed

Demi Lovato seemed to really be in love with Max Ehrich, so there were a lot of theories about why they broke up after getting engaged. Some people thought he was just using her to make Selena Gomez jealous, which was funny but never very likely. Also, she kind of went a little crazy after she broke up with him.

But it turns out that the reason her engagement didn’t work out is that she’s super gay. Here’s what she told Glamour:

“When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” Lovato says, beaming. “This past year I was engaged to a man, and when it didn’t work, I was like, This is a huge sign. I thought I was going to spend my life with someone. Now that I wasn’t going to, I felt this sense of relief that I could live my truth.”

Like many single 20-somethings, she’s exploring this terrain through casual dating. And in this moment, Lovato says, she feels “too queer” to be with a cis man.

“I hooked up with a girl and was like, ‘I like this a lot more.’ It felt better. It felt right,” she says. “Some of the guys I was hanging out with—when it would come time to be sexual or intimate, I would have this kind of visceral reaction. Like, ‘I just don’t want to put my mouth there.’ It wasn’t even based on the person it was with. I just found myself really appreciating the friendships of those people more than the romance, and I didn’t want the romance from anybody of the opposite sex.”

I mean, good for her. Still very weird for me that queer is the politically correct term now, though.

I’m sure she’ll eventually find the right person for her, and it’ll be easier now that she’s looking for someone she’s actually attracted to.