Famous Male Feminist Joss Whedon Spent 15 Years Cheating On His Wife

Man, male feminists are having a rough go of it lately. It was just a few months ago that woman-respecter Jamie Kilstein was kicked off of Citizen Radio for trying to f**k pretty much every woman who came on the podcast that he co-hosted with his wife Allison Kilkenny. And who could forget Devin Faraci, former editor-in-chief of Birth.Movies.Death, who built a career on his reputation as a male feminist, stepped down amidst allegations of sexual assault. Those were were made against him in a Twitter thread when he was talking about how Donald Trump should respect women the way he does. Months before that, a little over a year ago from today, the phenomenon was so widespread that Patton Oswald tweeted this:

Which brings us to today. While Joss Whedon was taking over directing the new Justice League movie, his ex-wife was writing a guest blog on The Wrap. Here’s what she said about the very feminist Whedon, who wants you all to know how much he respects women.

Fifteen years later, when he was done with our marriage and finally ready to tell the truth, he wrote me, “When I was running ‘Buffy,’ I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it.” But he did touch it. He said he understood, “I would have to lie — or conceal some part of the truth — for the rest of my life,” but he did it anyway, hoping that first affair, “would be ENOUGH, that THEN we could move on and outlast it.”

Joss admitted that for the next decade and a half, he hid multiple affairs and a number of inappropriate emotional ones that he had with his actresses, co-workers, fans and friends, while he stayed married to me. He wrote me a letter when our marriage was falling apart, but I still didn’t know the whole truth, and said, “I’ve never loved anyone or wanted to be with anyone in any real or long-term way except for you ever. And I love our life. I love how you are, how we are, who you are and what we’ve done both separately and together, how much fun we have…” He wanted it all; he didn’t want to choose, so he accepted the duality as a part of his life.

Then later, after he confessed everything, he told me, “I let myself love you. I stopped worrying about the contradiction. As a guilty man I knew the only way to hide was to act as though I were righteous. And as a husband, I wanted to be with you like we had been. I lived two lives.” When he walked out of our marriage, and was trying to make “things seem less bewildering” to help me understand how he could have lied to me for so long, he said, “In many ways I was the HEIGHT of normal, in this culture. We’re taught to be providers and companions and at the same time, to conquer and acquire — specifically sexually — and I was pulling off both!”

What’s interesting to me is that even in a private letter to his wife apologizing for spending their entire marriage banging anything that moves, he still shoehorned in some feminist talking points about the concept of toxic masculinity. At least he admits that he went around banging on about what a great feminist he is to cover the fact that he was also banging on any woman who would have him.

Is anyone shocked that this keeps happening? There are plenty of people who want equal rights and treatment for women who don’t run around in their $150 designer “This is what a feminist looks like” t-shirts, writing essays for Jezebel about how manspreading is a bigger threat than ISIS. Even the Bible tells you to keep an eye on people who tell you how pious they are.

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6 years ago

Meh. You can be asshole in your personal life and still want gender equality.

6 years ago
Reply to  AussieDan

I think with people like Whedon and Faraci, it was more of a facade to make up for them secretly being awful to women, they’re line of thought was probably “if I act all pro-feminist this will make up for me treating women like s**t.